It’s awfully challenging

The original way was to stay with your family. It wasn’t a nuclear family. The latter is very constrained. It was an extended family . . . with many sources of interaction and support. A person was emotionally grounded in their family.

Moderns have the challenge of finding new emotional/psychological grounding. It’s not easy. So moderns tend to be lonely. And the attempts at bonding are fraught.

https://mcc.gse.harvard.edu/reports/loneliness-in-america

Young adults suffer high rates of both loneliness and anxiety and depression. According to a recent CDC survey, 63% of this age group are suffering significant symptoms of anxiety or depression.

Modernity. Hyper-individualism. Nuclear family. Much emphasis on the phenomenon of pairing.

It’s a buddy system with a priority of partnering.

Primary attention to a Significant Other.

They used to try to make that Solid with religious and social strictures … marriage … the ring. Disparagement of divorce, etc. Now it’s increasingly less Solid. It’s increasingly fraught and precarious.